How to face your problems!
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So often we turn to life. We are masters of prevention! But if we want to come, that is, to enjoy life and be more effective, we need to face reality. When we are guided by a realistic principle, we develop a deeper capacity to deal with life more effectively. What was once difficult is now easy. What once frightened us is now familiar. Life can be more manageable. We get something even deeper: the more we see that we have become stronger, the more confident we can become. This is the basis of knowing the possibility of well-being in a satisfying life.
- Embrace your life more than you would like
The Supreme Buddha taught that the secret of life is to have what you have and not what you don't have. Being present means being present to the life you have at the moment. When life takes us there is freedom. That is, good with evil, wonderful with tragedy, love with loss and life with death. When we embrace it all, we have a real chance to enjoy life, to treasure our experiences, and to gain treasure. When we surrender to the reality of who we are, we are given the opportunity to do what we can.
As the story of the tortoise and the rabbit tells us, slow and steady wins the race. By being in a hurry, we are actually hindering our success. We are ahead of ourselves. We make more mistakes. We cut corners and then pay for them. We can learn the easiest way but not the best. As the old saying goes: the slower you go the more you get there. Slow, disciplined, incremental growth is an approach that leads to lasting change.
As the story of the tortoise and the rabbit tells us, slow and steady wins the race. By being in a hurry, we are actually hindering our success. We are ahead of ourselves. We make more mistakes. We cut corners and then pay for them. We can learn the easiest way but not the best. As the old saying goes: the slower you go the more you get there. Slow, disciplined, incremental growth is an approach that leads to lasting change.
- Although painful, stay close to your feelings
Often our emotions seem scary, heavy, and confusing, so we try to keep them away. But we need our emotions to find life satisfaction, meaning, and happiness. Getting rid of emotions is not just about retreats, but the mental energy that makes life worth living. Emotion is the gas of our personality engine. They are the source of motivation. They are the life force, vitality, juice. Without them, our lives would have no personality, dimension or color. There will be no joy, creativity, or fun. You won't. I am not. Nothing really matters without our feelings.
- Accept success and failure in life's journey
We all learn: Always no one understands it properly. A more sympathetic view of ourselves helps us stay in the game. The dynamic process of life - trying, succeeding, failing and trying again - is the only way to build lasting confidence in ourselves. We both learn from experience that we can succeed and overcome failure. As we learn to be humble and develop our view of ourselves as limited beings, we always need the help and support of others. No matter how mature or successful we are, the child always needs mentors and friends who see us.
- Focus on your loving relationships
It is easy to overlook the most important things: our relationships with those we love. These connections are not done magically; They grow by focusing and working hard. Mature is an active, living experience such as love, marriage, family, or friendship. It's something you choose every day. It's something you earn every day. It takes commitment to keep it going. It involves a daily process of respecting our separation beyond the distant. It accepts the reality that we are hurting and hurting each other. That is the nature of being a man. These pains cannot be avoided. We can only commit to the weather and do what we can to fix them. Love, then, essentially repairs. We tend to get hurt. We try to cure them. We express our concerns. We take responsibility for our mistakes; We are learning to say sorry. We will try to make amends. We learn to forgive; We accept the forgiveness of another. As the monks do every day, we fall to the ground, stand up, and rise again.
You can get advice on what to do and what they did in similar situations.
But you can ask for more practical help. You don't have to solve every problem on your own, and sometimes it feels good to have someone by your side, even for emotional support.
If you ask, you will find that people are often willing to help you.
- Break the problem into smaller pieces
Solving a problem can sometimes seem overwhelming and impossible. Reduce anxiety and clear the problem of thinking more clearly.
Identify the various components it contains. Then find one practical solution that you can take for each of them. Use those solutions.
They don't solve the whole problem right away. But with those solutions, you can get started and solve some parts of it.
- Find the opportunity and/or lesson in the problem.
I find that there is almost always a positive side to a problem.
Sometimes it informs us of a good way to improve our business or relationships. Or it teaches us how our lives are not as bad as we thought.
Finding the most positive part of the problem reduces its negative emotional impact. You may even begin to see the situation as a good opportunity.
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